NLP COMMUNICATION MODEL:
The NLP Communication
Model precisely explains what happens with the information we take from the outside world, and while processes them into our neurology and how this
information creates our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
The NLP Communication
Model is one of the major concepts in Neuro
Linguistic Programming (NLP). As human beings, we are constantly taking in
information from our outside world through our five senses which are Visual
(sight), Auditory (hear), Kinesthetic (touch), Olfactory (smell) &
Gustatory (taste). According to Hungarian psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in his book, "Flow" the human mind received 2 million bits of information every
single second out of which only 134 bits of information is processed effectively
which is responsible for creating our internal representation and map of our
reality.
HOW SUCH A HUGE
AMOUNT OF DATA PROCESS AND HANDLE THROUGH OUR NERVES SYSTEM? AND HOW IT CREATES
OUR STATES, BEHAVIORS, AND EMOTIONS THAT WE EXPERIENCE?
When this data from the external event came into our
neurology through our five senses, before these data make up our experience is
very efficiently filtered at our unconscious level. We delete, distort and
generalize the data.
DELETION:
With the receive data our unconscious mind omit and delete those date which seems unimportant for us at a specific moment from our conscious awareness.FOR EXAMPLE:
when
we travel on the road we saw so many faces but hardly remember any of them
until there is something unusual about it.
DISTORTION:
It is
a process in which we misrepresent our reality through distorting it. By using
the word misrepresentation does not mean that delude the reality in a negative
way, it could be either negative or positive.
FOR EXAMPLE:
- He smiles at me, I think he likes me.
- I know this corona crisis will destroy the world economy.
GENERALISATIONS:
When
one or maybe a few specific experiences are used to draw a global conclusion is
called generalisation.
FOR EXAMPLE:
- When a toddler learns to open one door, he/she immediately associates this learning to open other shapes that look like a door, such as a cupboard and other doors.
- If someone once is bitten by a dog he/she might create a generalisation that all dogs are dangerous, or might have a phobia of dogs.
- All politicians are corrupted.
SO WHAT REALITY IS?
Since everyone experiences the situation differently so it's
our internal representation that determines how we view the world and
everything around it and that creates our
reality. What information will get process depends upon how our brain has
been program. Mostly our programming is determined by the sum of our
experiences throughout our life. Several factors determine what we filter or
whatnot. Such as;
META PROGRAMS:
These are those programs that install at our most unconscious level; they work
like mind software that regulates our personality types.
VALUES:
Things that are most important to us are our values. Values control what things do we
consider to be right or wrong, good or bad. Values are context-specific,
therefore what's important or significant in one area of our life, may not be
important or significant in other areas.
BELIEFS:
What we
hold to be true, about ourselves, others and the world are called beliefs.
These are the sources that support our values. The quality of your beliefs that
you carry with you significantly influences the quality of our life.
MEMORIES:
These
are the past collective experiences that impact our current perceptions. Our
present behaviors are ominously influenced by our collections of memories.
DECISIONS:
The
decisions that we take about ourselves such as who we are and what we are
capable of greatly affect what we faced within the present. Decisions that we
have taken in our past are responsible for creating our present values,
beliefs, and character; therefore they greatly influence how we respond to
current circumstances.
HOW YOU ARE CREATING YOUR RESULTS?
The internal representation that has been created by
applying these filters which work at the unconscious level, that internal
representation will affect our physiology, and vice versa. Our internal
representation and physiology create our state of mind or mood that leads us to
act or react in some way on events or situations happening around us. So your
state of mind will determine your behavior and by acting or reacting in a certain way you create the results you are getting in your life.
THE BENEFIT OF UNDERSTANDING ABOUT THE NLP COMMUNICATION MODEL:
- It enables us to more flexible while communicating with others.
- Helps us in understanding others point of view which enables us to relate to them easily and respond to them on their terms.
- Assists us in building rapport quickly.
- Capable us to create empathy and compassion towards others.
- Support us in understanding ourselves better.
SOME IMPORTANT LEARNING:
- An external event is not equal to an internal event because of the filter our unconscious mind has applied to it.
- If an event occurs with two or more person they all might have different internal representations because all of them have different Meta programs, values, beliefs, and past experiences.
- Our internal representation creates our physiology and vice versa.
- Our physiology and internal representation create our state of mind or mood.
- Our states determined our behavior which eventually leads us towards the result we are producing
